In Jesus’s famous Sermon on the Mount, He lists certain characteristics that make a person “blessed.” These “blessed” characteristics are what He says make people righteous in the eyes of God, and when we apply them to our relationships with our partners, can do the same.
1. The Poor in Spirit
2. The Gentle
3. The Makers and Maintainers of Peace
1. The Poor in Spirit: The poor in spirit? That sounds like it would not be a good thing! Let’s look a little closer. In Matthew 5:3, Jesus says, “Blessed [spiritually prosperous, happy, to be admired] are the poor in spirit [those devoid of spiritual arrogance, those who regard themselves as insignificant], for theirs is the kingdom of heaven [both now and forever]” (AMP). Being poor in spirit means that you truly humble in how you view yourself. By being poor in spirit, you choose to set the needs of others over yourself and not to act like a pompous, religious fool when it comes to spiritual things as well as any other knowledge. By being poor in spirit, you choose to be humble, thoughtful, and an active listener to make sure those around you are prospering in a myriad of ways. Be this kind of person with your partner and you will start to see change in your relationship; like Jesus said: to these is the kingdom of heaven.
2. The Gentle: In Matthew 5:5, Jesus says, “Blessed [inwardly peaceful, spiritually secure, worthy of respect] are the gentle [the kind-hearted, the sweet-spirited, the self-controlled], for they will inherit the earth” (AMP). You may be surprised how not gentle we actually are as people; we’d like to think we are, but the constant and careful practice of being a gentle person is a hard task that is not for the weak of heart. It is important that we take this seriously and conduct ourselves in a way that makes us known as people who are gentle. It is all the more important that we demonstrate true gentleness to our partners in every situation. Wondering where the “honeymoon period” went? It never left; try practicing gentleness and you will see what I mean! Remember, these people who practice gentleness will inherit the earth.
3. The Makers and Maintainers of Peace: In Matthew 5:9, Jesus says, “Blessed [spiritually calm with life-joy in God’s favor] are the makers and maintainers of peace, for they will [express His character and] be called the sons of God” (AMP). Let’s face it, neither you or your partner are always right about something or a situation; you might think you are, but there is typically fault on both sides when things aren’t going right. Whether it is 50/50 or 90/10, we are called by Jesus to be makers and maintainers of peace. This does not mean you just let people push you around or settle. Quite the contrary! What this means is you go out of your way to make sure that things are settled in a calm, reasonable, and honorable way. This is hard to do, especially in a relationship, but totally worth it. These people will be called sons of God.
Being poor in spirit (those devoid of spiritual arrogance, those who regard themselves as insignificant), gentle (the kind-hearted, the sweet-spirited, the self-controlled), and peacemakers as well as peace maintainers is a lot! But this is the sacred, holy calling that came from Jesus Himself for how we can have the kingdom of heaven, inherit the earth, and be called sons of God; this is what happens when we practice these things. How much more then when we practice them towards our partner in our relationship? We are called to practice these things even more so with our partners than anyone else. Being a better partner, as we can see, is a process and a journey that is not solved by a seminar or a quote—it is a process of self-discovery, self-reflection, and character development, that if we commit to, will certainly work out, and these messages from Jesus are a great place to start in being a better partner.