10 Signs of Abuse
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Sometimes when you're in a situation, you don't see the signs until it's too late. If you see some of these signs, or if a friend brings them to your attention, it's important get help.
✧ Guilt tripping you. Or shaming you into doing things that you just don't want to do. It's usually the start of asserting control over you.
✧ Threatening to hurt you, themselves or others. If someone is a danger to themselves, others or you, call 911. Idle threats can turn real.
✧ Pleading. Pleading for your empathy, telling you that you don't know what it's like, begging for another chance... Your partner should make you feel safe with them 24/7.
✧ Not giving you a moment. Calling/texting you repeatedly, not giving you a moment of space to think, to reflect. This type of harassment uncalled for.
✧ Claims that they will change. While I do know that each of us changes over time, and with experiences, changing in an hour is darn near impossible. If I only had a dollar for each time my abuser stated they would change, that it would be better...
✧ They prevent you from seeing/talking to friends and/or family. This is a super red flag! This type of control takes away from your relationship. Each of you should be an individual, joined together to bring happiness to each other.
✧ Dismissiveness, they don't care about your feelings or what you have to say. They treat you like you're not important to them.
✧ Character assassination/embarrassment. They seek to belittle you in public, or in private. Again asserting control, making you feel insignificant.
✧ Closely monitoring your whereabouts. Having to know exactly where you are every minute of every day, getting angry if they can't reach you.
✧ Financial control. Keeping you from working, or taking your paycheck and giving you a small allowance is wrong. As a couple, 3 banking accounts is ideal. 1 for each of you, and 1 for the "house". Figure out what the expenses are, and each of you contribute to the house account what that amount is. Then you'll each have your own account for what's left over.
If you or someone you know is experiencing any form of abuse, please know that help and support are available. Reach out to trusted friends, family members, or professionals who can guide you toward safety and healing. You are not alone, and there is a network of caring individuals and organizations ready to provide assistance and support on the path to recovery.
There you have it, 10 Signs of Abuse. Our third in the Emotionally Healthy You Series. Stay tuned to our website, Instagram Facebook page or sign up for weekly emails in our Emotionally Healthy You Series.
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